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Domestic Violence & Abuse - Page 2
Page updated - 13 August 2009
Most of the following has been copied from a leaflet published by Suffolk County Domestic Violence and Abuse Forum
STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Freephone 0800 783 5121
Domestic violence and abuse affects people across all social, economic, geographical, racial and religious boundaries. One in four women report experiencing violence and abuse at some point in their lives.
What is domestic violence and abuse?
Domestic violence and abuse can include physical, sexual or emotional abuse. it could involve some of the following behaviour:
Abuse takes many forms and can happen repeatedly.
What are the patterns?
Domestic violence and abuse is not an occasional disagreement. It is a pattern of behaviour used by one person to establish and maintain power and control over the other. Everyone has a right to feel safe in a relationship. Do not ignore the behaviour; seek help for the sake of you and your children.
There is no excuse for violence and abuse:
Families and violence
Children and young people are affected in different ways by growing up in a violent home. They may feel guilty, anxious and confused and show this by becoming aggressive, withdrawn or ill.
It is best to be honest and direct with them about what is happening. They may feel more secure with one parent in a stable environment away from violence and tension, than with two people in a violent relationship.
Abusers may threaten that if you leave or tell anyone about the violence, the children will be taken away. This is very unlikely in most cases, but if you are planning to leave the family home, you are advised to take your children with you.
Abusers need help to change their behaviour and specialist help is available. The most important thing is that the violence and abuse must end.
What can I do now?
Talk to someone talk you and trust, or ask for help using the helplines and contact numbers on the left of this page.
Make a plan in case you need to leave or get out quickly:
As a friend, family member or neighbour, how can you lend support?
Finding professional help and advice:
Contact a Solicitor if you are being, or have been assaulted or threatened. Your local Citizens Advice Bureau, listed in the telephone book, can help you find a solicitor, or ring your local Women's Aid Helpline.
Contact the Police. They will respond, investigate and assist you. For emergencies ring 999, for non-emergencies and advice ring 01473 613500.
Consult your Doctor or Health Visitor. If you have received any physical injury, make sure you get treatment from you doctor or local hospital and ask for a record to be made.
Ask your local housing authority to help you to find temporary accommodation. For advice, contact your local council.
Contact the Benefits Agency to find out if you are eligible for Income Support or other family benefits. Benefits Enquiry offices and helplines are listed in the telephone book.
Domestic violence and abuse is a crime and is unacceptable.
National figures show:
For further information about the work of the partnerships, Domestic Violence and Abuse Forums or services available for victims, their families, perpetrators or the wider community, please contact Marianne Fellowes, County Domestic Violence and Abuse Development Officier on 01473 613873 or Email Marianne
Confidential support and information Helplines:
Suffolk helpline - 0800 783 5121
National helpline - 0808 2000 247
Women's Aid & Refuge:
Bury St. Edmunds - 01284 753085
Ipswich - 01473 745111
Lowestoft - 0800 587 7890
Police (Victim Liaison):
Eastern Area - 01986 835170
Southern Area - 01473 383082
Western Area - 01284 774183
Childline - 0800 1111
Ipswich & Suffolk Coastal - 07966 982612
Lowestoft & Waveney - 07967 272332
Wet Suffolk - 07966 982611